What happens when we distrust our behavioural traits?
A small note today on our behavioural traits that might be holding us back in some way, compromising our ability to be successful in life and in our career. We are all a collection of traits that define our behaviour – in fact, Harrison Assessments lists 175 different traits. Each person is a unique collection of traits, and each trait is either expressed strongly, expressed well, or under expressed. Today, let’s quickly explore those under expressed traits that can compromise our ability to be successful in our relationships, careers and other parts of life.
When we learn through experience to distrust our senses around particular traits, we shut those traits down and they become under expressed. For example, if we have had multiple failures when we have taken risks, then we are likely to refrain from risky behaviour in the future.
When this happens, we lose our ability “read” the emotions related to that trait — we are no longer in touch with the emotions that the trait generates in our body — and can no longer adjust our behaviour for the best outcomes. The distrust can become a source of anxiety, and this in turn can distort, transform or falsify our reality in some way. We begin to deny, rationalise or intellectualise rather than engage with and own our fears and distrust. We tell ourselves stories to justify our distrust. “I need to keep myself safe, because whenever I take a risk there is always a bad outcome.”
But these traits will still materialise in some way. They don’t go away just because we choose to ignore them. The truth is, we still need those traits to function in the day to day world, so we begin to project these behaviours onto others or manipulate situations so that others fulfill that role for us. We will perhaps over use our stronger traits to keep us from the pain of our under expressed traits. Yet continued repression and over using the stronger traits continually saps our energy and enthusiasm.
Building Self Awareness puts us back in touch with those areas that we have repressed. One of the best ways to begin is to identify those traits by using Harrison Assessments, and arranging a supportive coaching program to explore the traits, learn new patterns of expression, and build confidence in using them effectively.
Take care, balance life and love your work.